When people litigate their conflicts,  the conflict is often not truly resolved.  Both sides feel like they "lost".  In mediation, the goal is to find solutions that let everyone win.

When people litigate their conflicts,  the conflict is often not truly resolved.  Both sides feel like they "lost".  In mediation, the goal is to find solutions that let everyone win.

 
 

WHAT KINDS OF SITUATIONS CAN A MEDIATOR HELP WITH?

·         Your neighbour is driving you nuts with their constant noise and the clutter in their yard, which is spilling over onto your property!  You have tried friendly ‘over the fence’ conversations, sent diplomatic emails, done your best to take the “high road”.  But nothing is changing, your stomach knots up whenever you look outside and you are losing sleep.  A mediator can help you find a solution so that the whole neighbourhood is better off.

·         You hired a contractor to renovate your bathroom.  He said it would cost $12,000 and be all done in under a month.  You are heading into the 3rd month and he has just presented you with a new estimate of his costs:  $22,000.  You feel like you’re ‘stuck between a rock and a hard place’ because hiring a lawyer won’t exactly save you money and paying the contractor that amount seems unjust.  You’ve tried talking reason into him, but he just walks away.  A mediator can help both you and your contractor to craft a deal that is acceptable to both of you.

·         Your elderly mother has dementia and needs care, but your siblings and you have very different ideas of what that care should look like, who will be responsible for what and how the costs will be covered.  Every time you try to sit together and work it out “like adults”, the three of you end up acting like you are all children again.  The last blow-up was so bad that two of your siblings refuse to communicate with each other.  A mediator can step in and help you step out of the middle, get everyone talking again, and refocus all that conflict energy onto the place you all actually want it going:  onto the support of your mother.